Ellie wrote: ↑
11 Oct 2018, 16:34
Jennifer wrote: ↑
11 Oct 2018, 15:12
Possibly a dispatch from Captain Obvious, but: have you looked at the thrift stores in your area? Almost every such store I've ever seen has a huge (pun unintended) selection of maternity clothes, no doubt because there's always a steady supply of women who recently outgrew -- uh, undergrew? -- them, and are discarding them because they need the closet space.
But that involves leaving the house, ugghhhhh
Also at this point I am 99% sure I am the fattest pregnant person in history (I am actually bigger at this moment than when I delivered the twins, and I am not even in the second trimester)
I do not know what the thrift store offerings are like in your area (except I'm pretty confident in predicting there's at least one
such store that is completely gross and would make me think "Huh, this must be what people who are disgusted by the very thought
of thrift shopping think ALL thrift shops are like"--if that's the first store you visit, don't let it turn you off from trying others) but -- seriously, you're missing out on a LOT of great deals, regarding clothes, books and furnishings. Especially if you have kids who are still in the "outgrow their old clothes and need all new ones every few months or so" phase of life. It is not THAT unusual for me to see clothes still with their original retail price tags on them, especially where baby and young children's clothes are concerned (my guess is that those were originally given as gifts to parents who either did not want them, or already had so many they couldn't get around to using them before said kid outgrew them).
A cursory Google search for "[your city and state] thrift stores," sans quotation marks, brought up a veritable embarrassment of riches, including one article claiming to list the ten best ones in your city. Which naturally implies there's a hell
of a lot more than ten offerings just within your city limits alone. Plus, "best" thrift stores is subjective -- for me, a "good" store is one where I make lots of good scores, and a "bad" one is where I don't. But there's one certain thrift shop around here which I personally think sucks -- in that I have NEVER ONCE found anything good for myself there -- whereas Jeff loves it because he pretty much always finds at least one good-quality garment in his size for a very good price.
Plus, maybe you could also find some good deals on furniture pieces that'll help solve some of your complaints a la "I REALLY don't like how my house is furnished and arranged right now." If you find the "good" shops in your area and get used to patronizing them, you can make your money stretch a HELL of a lot further than it currently does. People who don't know me well enough to know my frugal habits think I'm either far richer than I am -- or in shitloads of debt, or with zero money in the bank -- because they assume I pay regular retail prices for the originally-expensive clothes and home decorations and similar things I have. Whereas I am more than happy to inform them "Nope, this pure-linen or -silk outfit with the designer labels on it cost me less than what Walmart asks for a plain T-shirt, and that entire shelf of hardcover books with dust jackets cost me less than what ONE such book costs new." (Yes, I sound like a missionary zealot here, because anyone who knows the Good News naturally feels compelled to share it.)
The only things I refuse to buy secondhand are socks, shoes, underthings and bathing suits. And if I had kids, or were otherwise in the market for "safety" gear (bike helmets, car seats, etc.) I would refuse to buy those for safety reasons -- you can't know their history, and whether they already sustained damage that is invisible to the naked eye, but makes those items useless for their intended purpose. (Helmets are essentially single-use items -- meaning they are designed to absorb and dissipate the impact of ONE crash, after which they are useless, even if they LOOK perfectly fine.) But otherwise, seriously, you can get a heck of a lot more (and nicer
) stuff for a hell of a lot less money, if you shop secondhand.
Regarding your fear that you wouldn't be able to find maternity clothes that fit because you're bigger than the average pregnant woman -- well, I don't personally know about maternity sizes, yet I still suspect you're being too quick to discard the possibility that the local thrifts will have good stuff for you. Especially since, IIRC, YOU were the one who first mentioned the existence of hemming tape, or whatever it is that people without sewing skills can use to hem garments? IOW, even if the local thrifts have a paltry selection of maternity clothes that would fit you as is, I wouldn't be surprised at ALL if they have pants, skirts or dresses that fit you around the belly, but might be too long in the hem. Except you know how to fix that with relative ease.
"Myself, despite what they say about libertarians, I think we're actually allowed to pursue options beyond futility or sucking the dicks of the powerful." -- Eric the .5b