My critique, just to be clear, was of the lie that schools are for something other than socialization, namely, academic instruction. I believe that is a lie that hurts many of the people who participate. For example, I tend to think I would have been better off had people not told me school was for learning. Essentially, I was told, "School is for X," and I thought, "That's great, I love X." But there was all this Y and Z going on, which in my mind was nothing but "things getting in the way of X." That means that I basically viewed all other students, and generally other people, as "in the way." A contemptible distraction that, I was told, would eventually go away! Eventually those people will fall away and you will actually get to do the thing you like, which is important and matters in the world. These were lies. So I think it is at least plausible that I would have less negative feelings for other people if school had been presented in a more realistic way.JasonL wrote:I think the critique of socialization in schools is somewhat overstated in these parts. I think it is hard for kids who lack social skills to swim in the deep waters of middle and high school. My middle school years were the worst of my childhood, but it is unclear to me that an ability to hide from it would have made me a better person. I see this somewhat like people who are bad at math saying they were scarred by highschool math classes. Could be. People making you feel stupid. Still and all, gotta go in there and see how to navigate what you can. I suspect nerdly type people who had the ability to avoid completely the unpleasantness of bad social settings are going to be worse people not better. Being able to navigate the environment is a thing that matters.
(Of course, I also kind of don't think that, because I think that I really do dislike spending time with/being exposed to other people more than average, and that an outlier along these lines, like I suspect I am, would hate the socialization no matter how it was presented. And I view socialization as an evil and a major reason why no one should have kids.)
And I don't think I was anything that could be described as lacking social skills, and really not nerdy at all either, at least not superficially. There was stuff I wanted to do, stuff I cared about, stuff that was interesting, and spending 6-7 hours with all these kids and teachers was *in my fucking way.* Spending tons of my valuable time on something I didn't like and didn't want to do. It felt like constantly being robbed. Every time someone asked a stupid question, it was like, I felt like they owed me something for making me listen to it and the answer, for wasting my life on their boringness.